by Marianne Clyde
Women, every day, tell me, “I need help.” I need to rediscover who I am. I’m lost. I’m so busy taking care of everyone else, there’s no time for me. Some of them seem to recognize that they are the key to breaking the cycle in their family, their community, their workplace. But they feel stuck and don’t know what to do.
They feel the pressure. They hate that they can’t fix things. Often they feel angry and incompetent.
This is where the problem lies.
There are some things you need to know if you want to feel more effective and powerful in your life.
First, understand that you are NOT incompetent. You are NOT responsible to fix everything or everyone. As a matter of fact, you cannot fix anyone. But you are responsible to be the best YOU you can be. And to do that, you have everything inside of you to accomplish it.
Society has sort of put the responsibility on women to fix things. And we are pretty good at that. But the truth is you are here to be the best version of you possible. Since we are all connected in some energetic, spiritual sort of way, when you rise, you automatically give permission to others to rise with you.
So from early on, we have been encouraged (might we say programmed?) to focus on everyone else and deny ourselves. If you think about that process, you can see that it doesn’t make any sense. How can you possibly take care of everyone else, how can you possibly hold everyone else up, how can you possibly fix anything if you have no source of fuel constantly filling you up?
You cannot pour from an empty cup. In any area of your life. It is a recipe for disaster.
So it is a completely UN-selfish act to love yourself, to nurture yourself and to take care of yourself FIRST.
And it all begins with the way you think. How you think controls your emotions and your actions. How you think controls your health. How you think controls your energy. How you think controls how you talk to yourself. And the cycle continues.
So here’s a basic place to start. Understand that you are already whole, perfect, and complete. Love, peace and joy are your natural state of being. Creation is your nature. You have everything within you to live the life you have been called to live.
Pay attention to how you talk to yourself. Do you ever look at your eyes in the mirror and love the reflection looking back? Do you ever tell her how much you love her and how amazing she is? She needs to hear all that from you, because YOU are the most powerful voice in her life. She’ll never believe it from anyone else until she hears it from you.
So stop looking outside of you for what’s missing. Nothing outside of you can fill you or complete you or even satisfy you, until you genuinely love yourself. Your life is more powerful when you work from an internal locus of control. Know that connection with all that is lives inside of you and is the source of all your strength. You are one with all of that, through your very nature. Love who you are and you will inspire others to follow suit.
Action Step: If you feel like you are starting over, and want to strengthen the principles of truth from which to build on, start with my online, on demand basic course of the 10 essential principles for your life that I refer to in all my previous books. Release Your Amazing. It’s where you start to create a strong foundation to develop your strongest identity and change your world.
