by Marianne Clyde
Why can’t I make the money I want? Why is our non-profit ineffective? Why can’t I write that book? Why is my relationship stagnant? Why don’t I have more friends? Why does everyone else seem to have a fascinating life and mine is so boring?
Whenever I find myself asking these kind of questions, the answer comes back to me loud and clear. Who is going to fix it? What do you expect to happen? Who is responsible for change?
And I realize, it’s up to me. ALL of it. No one is coming. My knight in shining armor is not waiting in the wings to appear. He is already here and it is ME!
I’m the one that trained for that marathon; certainly no one else could have done it for me. I’m the one that prepared for my climb of Mt. Fuji and my trek to Mt. Everest base camp. It’s ridiculous to think that that could have happened by having someone else do it for me. I’m the one who set up my businesses over the years. I’m the one that showed up every day. I’m the one that wrote three Amazon Best sellers.
Glinda, the good witch of the North from the Wizard of Oz, reminds me that, “You’ve always had the power my dear.” That’s not a fable. It’s not a fairy tale; it’s the TRUTH.
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I sure do want someone to come along and fix things. Then I realize that I AM THE ONE. I am the only one that cares that much about what’s going on in my life and I am the ONLY one that is able to fix it. So I can sit around for years hoping “someone else comes along” or I can do it.
I can make the hard decisions. I can learn to fix the sink. I can ask for that raise. I can change the plan. I can sit my ass down and write that book. I can show up 100% or walk away. I can make that phone call. I can put on my armor and ride.
Yes, sometimes change hurts. Sometimes change is scary. Sometimes doing something I’ve never done stretches me til I want to scream.
But in the long run, stagnancy only creates a putrid little puddle or a slow sucking quicksand. So many people choose these options and soon don’t even notice the danger.
I have this one life. I can let myself slowly sink into stagnancy and die before I’m dead. Or I can choose to ask, “What if I could?” What if I could make that money? What if I could have a vibrant loving relationship? What if I could figure out a way to be more effective, to live a full, rich life, to accept the abundance that’s all around me waiting for me to let it in?
Because I can. So can YOU. All it takes is to accept responsibility for the only thing you are responsible for: YOU. And take one step. Then another. Every day. And you are already ahead of the rest who are still sitting that stagnant puddle.
As Einstein said, “Nothing happens until something moves.”
Everything Isn’t She Amazing stands for is to help you live your most joyful, and productive life; and if we each do that, the heavy energy in the world will begin to dissipate and we will inspire others to do the same.
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